The little boss has recently started this thing about showering in the morning before she gets changed, regardless of whether she has pooped or not.
She's probably picked this up from her Daddy, and would insist on taking a shower and using the bathroom first before he does. 😂
Not sure what to make of this, except that I hope she doesn't catch a cold.
Her #toddlerlogic works in funny ways, and it's actually fun (and funny) talking to her.
This morning on our way to school, she was talking about our seating arrangements in the car.
She asked why Daddy cannot sit with her, and I said it's because Daddy needs to drive.
She concluded that "So Mummy sits with Clarissa" and added "Mei mei sits behind", pointing to the seats at the back of the car.
The hubs was hopeful that she might mean that she would also be sitting on the third row, but I informed him otherwise.
"Clarissa sits here, Mummy sits beside Clarissa, Daddy sits in front, Mei mei sits behind," little miss bossy declared.
"How about Mummy sitting in front and Mei mei sits beside Clarissa?" I suggested to her.
She considered for a second and counter proposed, "How about Mei mei sits beside Daddy and Mummy sits beside Clarissa?"
It's not a bad solution, because everyone gets company.
So I said we could do that when Mei mei is much older.
One show that actually catches her attention is this documentary "小当家" that shows on Channel 8 every Monday night.
She would watch intently about the big Gor-gor or Jie-jie taking on household chores or being caregivers for their families and ask me a lot of questions.
I usually take the opportunity to tell her their story and to remind her how lucky she is.
In last night's episode, we watched how the little Jiejie had to trek a long distance to the fields to dig for potatoes.
As I was explaining the process to her, she remarked, "Clarissa likes potato!"
I said, yes and do you know what else is made of potato?
She said "Potato in soup!" Hahaha which is not wrong.
"The French fries and hashbrown that Clarissa likes eating is also made from potatoes," I said to her.
"But fries are long!" She insisted. 😂
"That's because they cut it before cooking," I explained but I could tell from her eyes that she wasn't very convinced.
"Anyway I don't think the Jiejie has the chance to eat hashbrown, you know?" I changed the topic.
"Oh why huh?" She asked.
"Because she stays near the mountains and there is no McDonald's over there."
"Oh," she frowned slightly. "But Clarissa's house has McDonald's!"
Food for thought eh.
I always feel sad watching this show, but I always watch it when I can, and often with the little one.
Life really isn't fair.
But instead of harping about how unfair it is, these kids not only live with it but also do their best while at it.
I often worry about our kids becoming self-entitled and weak, because the truth is, kids these days are quite privileged.
It's not to say that as parents we should be harsh and not give them anything, but balance the act of giving and withholding.
And balancing is often the hardest thing to do.
We'd have to keep learning and keep adjusting along the way.
I'm revealing my age but this is so good.
I don't have the patience to watch the entire episode so I fast forward to the singing parts. 😂
This song dates back to, gasp, 1995.
22 years old, and it's still so.. sad.
Why is pain often so poignant?
Ok, back to work.
Cheeky monster came home from school and immediately zoomed into the study room, half crying.
She hugged me and told me sadly, "Ah-gong scold me." 😂
She was very happy on the way home, singing and asking Ah-gong why he's not happy. 😂😂
Ah-gong bought her Yakult and she said thank you and all, but when she alighted his car, she wanted to carry the Yakult on her own.
Ah-gong told her not to, and she got upset. #SNAG 😂
I took her to her room to get changed and chatted with her before returning to work.
I had to take an urgent call from my colleague so I asked the little one to please be quiet while I talked.
She didn't agree or disagree.. so as I was trying to talk to my colleague, my boss at home was also talking. 😂
Luckily my colleague was nice? He kept saying, so cute so cute.
But it got to a point I could hear neither him nor myself.
So I had to pause the conversation and ask our helper who was happily cooking in the kitchen to please take her back to her room.
Luckily there were no tears.
But yeah work calls after 5pm are quite impossible. 😥
After I finished the call she came in again and asked to get into her cot.
I obliged and got about 10 minutes free before she wanted out. 😂
It's quite adorable that she already acknowledges that the cot is now for Meimei but she keeps asking why.
Why the small baby gets the cot and why a big girl like her gets the truck. 😆
Finally logged off work at 7ish.
I was working quite steadily most parts of today but somehow ended the work day feeling somewhat frazzled.
Couldn't join the little boss for dinner because I had to finish up some stuff.
She very nicely obliged and headed out to the dining table to have her dinner with Yaya, but every few minutes she'd be calling out from the table, "Mummy, can you come here and sit with me?"
I'd call out from my desk, "Sorry Clarissa, Mummy needs to finish my work first."
We went through the same exchange at least 5 times before she eventually finished her dinner.
I headed to the bathroom for a shower and she'd come and open the door every few minutes to ask me questions. 😂
"Mummy, can I take my vitamins now?"
"Mummy, can I change into my car t-shirt?"
"Mummy, are you done?"
I felt so.. naked. 😂😂😂
After dinner, I followed up on her teacher's notes in her comm book and took a pen to write my response.
She suddenly became angry and raised her voice at me.
"IT'S MINE!" She declared and started to cry. "NOT YOURS!"
I very calmly told her that the pen is in fact mine and I'd lent it to her.
It made her angrier and she ran to her Yaya to complain about naughty Mummy.
I told her I'd be in my room when she has calmed down, and left her in the living room with Yaya.
Overheard our helper asking her to say sorry to Mummy.
Less than a minute later, she knocked on my door and said meekly, "Sorry Mummy!"
I gave her a hug and suggested to her a nicer way of asking for the pen. I told her I knew she wanted the pen, but the way she asked for it earlier was rude.
She nodded and said to me, "Next time I ask nicely."
Moments later, she observed, "Mummy is happy now!"
"Yes, Mummy is happy now," I confirmed her observation.
Mummy is happy when Clarissa is a good girl!
She said thoughtfully.
Sigh, then why you throw tantrums leh. 😂
On average, one outburst a day.
I'm guessing she picked it up from school, because I've seen how little kids interact and react when they want to claim territory, and also because our household is generally calm and we seldom raise our voices or shout.
I guess it's both nature/nurture, because she does have a pretty feisty quick temper like her Ah-gong and Daddy. 😂
So I try to be calm to counter her short temper, and explain her behaviour to her after she has calmed down.
It helps that she's quite perceptive, but she can't always control her temper. Apparently most kids under four can't, anyway.
Played the magformers with her before bedtime.
She took most of the magnets and built a truck with them.
I was left with only a few and built a smaller car. I remarked that my car is small and cannot move fast.
She took over and extended the car with other magnets.
"It's bigger now!" She said to me and encouraged me to try moving the car again.
Really like a 大姐大 sometimes. 😂